1. Know your reasons. How badly do you want a girlfriend? Are you doing it for the right reasons? Do you really just want to have a relationship, or do you just want to brag? If you're looking for a girlfriend out of desperation or just to look cooler in front of your friends, your chances of getting a girlfriend are low.
2. Don't label yourself. Perhaps you want to go after a cheerleader. All your friends might say you have no chance - you're a nerd! Ignore them. If you don't care, and she doesn't care, that's all that matters. Don't put yourself in a box.
3. Stay smart. Don't think you have to dumb yourself down. Know that you're lovable as you are. Maybe a little sprucing up will help, but don't get obsessed with it. Getting a girlfriend shouldn't be your first priority.
4. Acknowledge that you're not always the smarter one. Hard to believe but it's true. Remember that you are a nerd in only one (or a few) knowledge areas, and thus unaware (blissfully) of many aspects of civilization. The girl you are dating is likely to be a generalist. She may not know much about your interest, but she knows a heck of a lot about other things that matter.
5. Get personal. Think of some girls you know, especially those you know personally, i.e., you are friends with. It's easier to build a relationship with some kind of foundation to start with.
6. Get to know her. Find some things to talk about. Ideally, you should find a girl who shares some of your interests. Even is she doesn't, it's not the end of the world. For example, she might not care about HTML and JavaScript but you might not want to recite Shakespeare. Diversity is an asset in relationships; you won't get bored with each other. At least you can respect each other's pursuit of something less frivolous than popularity.
7. Tidy up. You're never going to be a jock but you don't have to look like a slob either. Keep your teeth food-free , your face clean, and your breath fresh. Find clothes that fit your personality - they don't have to be cool, just relatively neat. Make yourself presentable so that you will have more confidence in yourself: Get a haircut, pick up some clothes that make you look good, shave, hit up a gym, buy or borrow some cologne (Don't overdo it! It should be barely noticeable). Taking care of your body and how you present it will show how much effort you are willing to put into a relationship, and physical attraction is never a bad thing.
8. Use it or lose it. Use your intelligence to your advantage. Not many girls will turn down tutoring sessions from a really intelligent guy, as long as they average As or higher. With tutoring, you can make friends with lots of girls. If there is a subject that you're having trouble with, ask one of the girls in your class who is doing well to help you out. Girls love to be appreciated for more than just their looks. If dating them doesn't work out, then at the least you've made lots of friends, and no harm can come from that.
9. Develop a shared passion. She knows you're into astrophysics and you know she likes to shop for hair accessories. You don't need to force one into the other's world. That's sure to be a disaster. Instead, find something that you like doing together. If it's photography, let her take the cute photos of baby animals at the zoo, while you worry about the megapixels.
10. Keep an ear on your conversation. If you hear yourself monopolizing the discussion with your brilliant insights, or descending into Trivialand, beware. Stop, smile, and say something like, "Whoa, I got carried away there. What do you think?". If she doesn't seem enthusiastic about the conversation, let her take the reins, or change the subject to one she's comfortable with. Nerds are detail oriented, and tend to prattle on happily, well beyond the point where anyone else is interested. Try to listen more than you talk. Listening is vital in good relationships.
11. Be confident! Nothing is more important. If your confidence is low to begin with, then build it up first. Remember, you are who you are, being fake will only make you crash and burn later. Be confident in (and even enjoy) who you are, and others will as well.If you want to be a nerd be one.
Tips
• Ask a close friend to be your wingman. They'll know what would work best for your personality.
• Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit. Intelligent people have a notorious habit of being very sarcastic. Some girls won't get your sense of humor, so keep it obvious. On the other hand, this could be used to your advantage - every girl loves a funny guy.
• Try to convince your best friend to follow these guidelines, then hang out with him at local places where you know people go. Smile, laugh, and have fun! People want to be friends with people who are fun. Girls want to date guys that have friends and have fun.
• Be yourself! Confidence in yourself is one of the biggest things that girls notice...
• Tell a Joke! Girls love to laugh so tell them a funny joke
• If the lady of your desire really doesn't like you at all for who you are, then she's not worth it. There are so many more people in the world. Forget about her - it's her loss.
• The MOST important tip of all: Women think that people who aren't good with the ladies will try harder, although true, don't try too hard, relax and have fun.
• Most high school girls like guys who are jerks and bad asses.
• Even if you did get her to really like you, don't use her as a freaking "coolness trophy"!! This will make her not like you anymore!
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